#taroteveryday: loving is an act of courage

Venus has gone direct and it has some pretty explicit instructions for me. As told by the results of this check-in spread.


1. What is the state of my heart space at this time? KNIGHT OF WANDS. I laughed out loud at the sight of this Knight. Proud, irreverent, eyes closed to their surroundings and really anything anyone might say in assist- if it doesn’t vibe with what they think is best. That’s me about this topic. Oh, I’m very open-hearted… but only when I want to be, how I want to be, and where I want to be. Which isn’t a bad thing- it’s served me well and let me take care of myself, but it isn’t always the best move. Especially when literally every single major reading, and now minor everyday readings like this one, are asking me to put the couer in courage and meet love in a new way.

2. What energy needs releasing? EIGHT OF SWORDS.  Around Ostara I received cards with essentially this message– that any perceived restrictions, obstacles, or incapability are an illusion. I’m not powerless in this space, in fact moving from a place of openness, love, and joy is my power.

3. What energy should be invited? ACE OF PENTACLES. Usually the cups suit is all about emotion, but I see my heart in that coin being offered. Pentacles are also about treasure, and my heart full of light and crystals and magic is my greatest treasure. It’s not the end of the world to offer it up and know that what makes it precious is also what protects it, so I’ll be fine.

4. Additional guidance to invite balance and flow? LOVE. Well, yes.

Love is lifeforce.
-Alexis Pauline Gumbs



on valentine’s day we wear yellow

Today was not a perfect day, but it was one that showed me what it was to hold love unshakeable within such that nothing could move it.

I woke up to a stunning daybreak, gold shining through the windows. The day quickly turned grey and dark and a thunderstorm complete with a tornado warning followed. Much like the weather, the people I interacted with felt like a whirwind of chaos, pain, and disorder. The promise of my time beyond the workday kept me going- that and holy basil and ginger black tea.

As soon as I got home I made sure to set the tone for the rest of the day, beginning with Oshun’s space. Valentine’s Day is a commercial creation, yes- but I believe in collective power. Beyond all the consumerism, all around us thoughts are turning to love. It’s complicated, of course. Along with that is trauma and pain but love magic still rules the day, and it is for us to turn and work towards ourselves, our communities, and our healing. I hope you got a chance to let today be a space to set intentions for healing around love (particularly self-love), such that can be sustained for the rest of the year.

In that spirit, I was overjoyed to receive the news that andi grace’s collective effort, we believe you: femmes surviving toxic masculinity would be available for the community today. It fills my heart to have been part of this brewed spell of femme heart healing. The e-zine is available with a donation at your discretion and financial access. In addition a portion of the proceeds will be donated to Black Lives Matter.


this 107 page e-zine is a multi media compilation of femme genius. the contributors come from a wide range of life experiences. it features affirming and magical advice and stories to help women and femmes not only survive, but thrive while living with the impacts of the patriarchy.

Happy Valentine’s Day, and with dear love to you!

rose moon solstice healing work

As the earth holds its breath at climax of night and day, a ritual:-

I meet the sun with grief and herbs burnt in memory of lights too soon put out and feed the bonfire with the flames of my rage. I do this in hope that I can leave it with the dying embers when all is consumed; let it all turn to ash to match the taste in my mouth.

I meet the moon with grief and water laid out in hope that no more lights will go dark too soon- inevitable, I know, but hope is a hard thing to kill when it is all that is left and you love so deeply. I remind myself why it is love survives and seek the shadow to find the light.

However you meet the solstice, may you find in the magic exactly what you need to.

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finding pockets of air, spaces to breathe

Heart is still weighed down but here is some of what has been helping. I share it with you and hope you find some heart ease. Take care. Self-care is resistance.

– Alexis Pauline Gumbs, poethealer and spinner of love webs, offers up a poem for the family we never got to meet: ‘pulse’

but now i am pulse

and now you
are flame.

a love spell for our grieving queer hearts. A ritual whose energy I returned to by brewing the herbs I cast into a heart heal tea this morning.

I cast Lemon Balm for broken hearts,
I cast Motherwort to hold us,
I cast Sage for those risen to ancestor,
I cast Rosemary as we remember,
I cast Rose for love, always.

In praise of Latin Night at the Queer Club, and the ways we made it sacred ground (or an ode to that one time you and that hard femme shared lipstick and then shared lipstick and broke apart as Selena came on and you rushed the dancefloor)

Outside, tomorrow, hangovers, regrets, the grind. Outside, tomorrow, the struggle to effect change. But inside, tonight, none of that matters. Inside, tonight, the only imperative is to love.

– Alexis J. Cunningfolk has a few suggestions for more herbs that heal in times of tragedy

While the following is only a short list of suggestions, I am working on a much larger resource on herbs and trauma that I’ll be sharing freely with folks in the coming weeks. I’ll post about it on my blog and the various social media outlets where I can be found. 

– Chani offers her starlit insight to guide us through this week

Saturn square Neptune (especially in this highly mutable astrological moment) can lend to feelings of confusion, disassociation and disenfranchisement. This is the point in the cycle at which we can no longer deny what is falling down, what is failing completely and what needs to be dealt with and dissolved…When we honestly look at how the structures that we are up against (Saturn) clash with the dreams we have for our lives (Neptune), we stand at the cross section of what needs to be done and what could be created.

6 O’clock Blues, a song by Solange Knowles eased my heart and reminded me of the shelter we have been and will continue to be for each other. I dedicate this to my queer and trans family.

They can sell me a story
And tell me we’re in danger
But our love will never die..
Cause people don’t make the world go round like they used to
But I know if I got one thing
Baby I know got you
You keep me sheltered from the six o’clock blues
Yeah, you keep me sheltered
From the six o’clock blues
And if I know one thing is gonna be alright
Then I know that’s it’s me and you

love is shadowmagic and it reaches out to those we lost and loved so deeply even without knowing

No, it won’t fix everything, but love has often been the chosen tool/weapon/magic chosen by those of us who find ourselves at the bottom of the food chain because of its potential, for power, for release, for a freedom of our own making, for a possibility of loving ourselves so deeply that anything less is unacceptable.

Love is shadowmagic.


love survives; Three of Swords from The Morgan-Greer Tarot


Hi, I’m Asali! I’m a Black queer femme earthworker passionate about tarot, tea, and healing work. Schedule a card reading with me for a deeply clarifying intuitive tarot session. You can also find me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, drop me a line!


ecstatically loving the high priestess within

Oshun and Yemaya all up and through my reading asking me to examine how I show love to myself. Is it a love of condition and requirement, or one of freedom and infinite passion?

What might it mean to seek ecstasy for ourselves?


The love we give to ourselves shouldn’t be one of distance and propriety. It isn’t some abstract thought or idea far-fetched and unreachable knowable only in the mind. It should be an earthy warm sensual thing felt body deep and life-givingly fed by water.

Alexis Pauline Gumbs writes, love is lifeforce. So how do you give yourself life?


Hi, I’m Asali! I’m a Black queer femme earthworker passionate about tarot, tea, and healing work. Schedule a card reading with me for a deeply clarifying intuitive tarot session. You can also find me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, drop me a line!

Full Moon In Cancer, Be LOVEly

A full moon on Christmas! How lovely, though that can sometimes be challenging. Cancer brings forth all your emotions, at a time when emotions are already running some of the highest they do all year!

So if at all possible, be LOVE. To yourself, especially.

At a time when the focus can sometimes be GIVE GIVE GIVE, remember to give love to yourself first so that your cup is not bone dry by Dec 31st when you have to get ready to turn over a new year.

May you be surrounded by loved ones- spirit and chosen family.

heart lights

Love, Oshun


Love messages from Oshun.

I asked for what I needed to receive concerning love and how I give it and receive it (particularly romantic love, but all kinds of love relationships)

1, PURIFIER is the message/where I am

2, 4 of FIRE is what blocks me

3, 9 of EARTH is what unblocks me and lifts me up.


(check out my newest citrine baby doing that work)

Maferefun Oshun!